Do YOU Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm During Sex?
Women today are far more aware of their sexuality than ever before. We can talk openly now about our love lives, our needs, our bodies.
But here's a shocking wake-up call: Statistics report that more than 16% of women NEVER reach orgasm. What are we doing wrong?
Never mind what the media will have you believe. The are five key reasons why women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex, and they need to be dealt with, openly and honestly.
Reason #1: Fear Of Failure/Over Concern With Pleasuring Your Partner
If you are constantly doubting your ability to please your partner when you're on the bed, then chances are you're in a negative mind frame that is clouding your sexual satisfaction.
Of course it's important that he is receiving pleasure. However, focusing too much on his satisfaction — rather than your own — will drastically minimize your chances of reaching orgasm.
If you're focused too much on what you are doing rather than how you're feeling, then no amount of stimulation from him is going to bring about an orgasm on you.
Reason #2: Not Doing Something That Feels Good To You
Are you being touched effectively?
If he isn't sure where your clitoris is or how to touch it just right, then it's your responsibility to show him.
Don't fake it when it doesn't feel good, as that causes repetition of ineffective touch and in the end, you both lose. You're not receiving orgasms, and you're robbing your partner of the knowledge and satisfaction of knowing what makes you climax.
Reason #3: Internal Dialogue
Many women find it hard to be "in the moment" during sex.
We are constantly thinking of other things: "Do I look fat?"; "Do I smell okay?"; "Does he really love me?"; "Did I remember to pick up my dry cleaning????"
This internal dialogue distracts you from focusing on the moment and the actual touch of your partner.
It is virtually impossible to have an orgasm while thinking about how flat your stomach looks or when the last time you cleaned your sheets was.
So, tell yourself to relax, and going to enjoy a wonderful night.
Reason #4: Failure To Communicate Openly With Your Partner
If you can't communicate with him about which positions feel best or why you don't like giving oral sex, this lack of communication will cause a decrease in sexual satisfaction and have negative repercussions on your sex life.
If you're too ashamed to admit that you want to incorporate your vibrator into your love life, for example, then chances are you are not going to reach your orgasmic potential.
So be as open and honest as possible, for only the truth will set your orgasms free. ;)
Reason #5: Medical Reasons
Many medical conditions and medications can have a negative impact on a woman's orgasms.
These include diabetes, urinary tract infections, overactive bladder, yeast infections, clitoral adhesions, depression (and anti-depressants), obesity, fatigue, constipation, menopause, birth control pills, and other medications, to name a few!
If you feel as though the first four issues we discussed are not a problem for you, then perhaps there is a medical reason why you're having difficulty reaching orgasm. The best thing to do is contact your doctor and discuss your options with him or her.
The Truth About Reaching Orgasm During Sex...
Before you start to worry about not reaching orgasm during sex, you need to know this: only 30% of women experience an orgasm through penetration alone.
Focusing all your attention on achieving an orgasm during intercourse can have discouraging results.
Don't rely strictly on penile penetration to bring you to climax. Instead, expand the time you spend on foreplay.
Don't be afraid to stimulate your clitoris during sex. And whatever you do, always be "in the moment."
Your mind is your largest sex organ — and if it's not present, then your body will have checked out long ago.
